Tuesday, September 22, 2009

two simple powerful words

How is it that 2 tiny simple little words can evoke soooooooo much excitement, apprehension, thrill, nervousness, arousal!

Whether he whispers it in your ear at a party, the grocery store, a crowded elevator, the video store, the doctor's waiting room, in line paying the phone bill.

or even worse/better, he says it out loud for everyone to hear:

" bad girl "

With just those seven letters you lose your breath for a second, your face flushes, you peek around out of the corner of your eyes to see who else heard, maybe you start to feel those first signs of arousal and maybe even your hand involuntarily starts to go back to your bottom!

Questions race thru your mind... did he hear that very thinly veiled "compliment" you just gave the bitch of the party... "that dress looks MUCH better on you".... leaving off but leaving no doubt you meant "instead of that 1975 pimp-mobile Caddilac car seat you got it from"

did he see you switch the price tag on the shelf from the rice a roni box on sale for 70 cents to the extra virgin olive oil that is regularly $7.99?

did the new bikini you purchased show up on this month's visa bill instead of the next because you forgot which date they closed and summarized that month's purcases?

or even "better" you can't think of any "reason" and he is just in the mood

For whatever the reason, you know that sometime after you get home (unless he said it while you are AT home, of course), you are going to get spanked!

He has probably picked that exact moment to say bad girl, cause he knows that now that is all that you are going to be thinking of. He knows that you are going to be squirming in your seat as you anticipate the event as you can't help but wonder what he is going to use, how long. It seems that the resulting arousal is proportional to how long it's been since the last time you had some "attention" especially if it's been TOO LONG (and i know ... it's subjective... for some girls that is 6 HOURS lolol)

All you know, is the next 45 minutes, hour, 2 hours, etc til it happens are going to be an "agony" of rampant imagination and dampening panties of the anticipation of the time you are going to spend over his lap and then between the sheets.

and damn thats great aint it! :D


after he goes to bed, take his toothbrush and soak the the head overnight in a glass of a mixture of vinegar, tabasco sauce, and salt!

and of course you make sure you get up before him and put his toothbrush back in the holder

also...make sure you have a replacement toothbrush for him after he uses it (and of course after he finally lets you up off his lap lol) cause the taste aint ever coming out

Tuesday, September 8, 2009

those four scary little letters!!!!


Don't know whether it brings thoughts of whips chains, cages, ball gags, etc. but seems to make people shudder and run.

Sure, that can be part of it, but it's certainly not all. Mike and i don't have ANY of that.

To me, bdsm just incorporates so much more than just the bend and whack of just spanking... which is great by the way!! ... but, there is sooooo much more to explore and enjoy.

Recent talks in chat as well as one reader's question about the oil is what got me to thinking about it.(will get to the oil :) )

It doesn't all have to be about making a girl as uncomortable as possible thru pain and pretzel positions. For us it's all about the sensuous nature of what we do. Of course, some pain is involved in spanking and i have looked in the mirror the next day and seen the marks and thought "holy crap! That was all in fun??!!" But, while it's going on there is soooo many other sensations, that even the pain is drowned out...if that makes sense.

Some of what we have/do that ISN"T just spanking :

blindfold: If you haven't tried it, DO! Wow! Not being able to "see what's coming" is an EXQUISITE torture lol

candles... Not the beeswax, pariffan store bought candles. These were professionally made by a great friend and trusted woman in the scene for many years. Made from soy and designed to melt at lower temperature so its just VERY warm and not burning. Absolutely amazing! And, get this the wax can be massaged into the skin like a silky lotion! Terrific when combined with blindfold and...

ice: The effect of ice and heat of candles is amazing! (i know! i overuse that word. But, sometimes the sensations are hard to put into words) and sometimes when you are really on edge and every nerve is alive and screaming with the sensuous torture of it all, you cant tell hot from cold at times!

oil: Ok. This is actually something Mike invented after we saw some massage oil at an adult store. He said he could make something a lot better and turned the kitchen into a laboratory. He finally perfected this recipe of

olive oil
ground habenero pepper
ground ginger
ground cinnamon
and has it warming in a crockpot all day

When we get back on our feet financially, we are thinking of selling it (of course i've probably just shot that idea to hell giving away the secret ingredients) that's how good this stuff is.

The sensation of it is INCREDIBLE especially on the more errrr "sensitive" parts! And on spanked skin its like streaks of very mild fire that can drive you up a wall!

stockings and pantyhose: My old ones..that have runs or lost a lot of elasticity. We use these for "restraints". i LOVE it... so soft, and no marks lol.

These are just SOME of the things we use and have. And see??!! No whips, back breaking positions, blood, rope burns, etc. Just ecstacy.

And thats bdsm. For us. Call it the lighter side of things, but sure doesn't need to be scary :).


Every house has a main water shut off valve for emergencies.

Next time he takes a shower, keep peeking in.

Soon as he is all shampooey and soapy, quick run and shut it off!

... variation on this

every water heater has a valve that shuts off the outflow of water from it...turn it off instead of the main water valve

sorry i havent been posting... i really do aprreciate everyone reading and making such kind comments.

i will try to write more...it's just real life is "intruding" big time at the moment